What will be life like after marriage? Will i be able to adjust in new home, with new family in a completely new environment?
These questions are the only things on a girl's mind before the Big Day. But how to make the new people and place like your own is never thought about. One always thinks i will do what makes me and my husband happy, cook good food, be a good home maker apart from handling my career. But what no one thinks about that there are other people in your new home apart from your husband. One should think how to work towards achieveing that perfect family in perfect home with perfect happiness for all.
The only golden word needed for the perfection is Compromise. The day we would learn to compromise we would have all the above. But compromise doesn't mean that you let others take advantage of you. Be aware of things around you. But find little ways where you can spread happiness to all and smiles on everyone's faces. Taking care of someone's feelings at the cost of yours would sometimes make you sad but then others would appreciate your efforts and they would also take care of your happiness too.
The relationships in this world stand on one basic pillar that is good verbal communication. One well known saint, Giani Sant Bhai Maskeen ji once rightly explained that all relationships in this world are based on how you communicate with each other.If you talk good to people , you get the same in return. If you don't talk to people for days or months or years, that would slowly bring a gap in between people even with closest of relationships lik husband and wife.
Always remember being soft spoken is not buttering or flattering someone. Talk good and people would do the same with you. And compromises and bending down in front of your elders won't make you small rather that keeps relationships and turn you into better individual. Take new people as your very own. Keeping these things in mind would help alot in adjusting in new home. Every home every family is different from the other so you might not get all that you had before. But accepting the new as it is should be followed. All the best to everyone one out there with similar questions.
